The Mysterious MOTHRA Reappears!

P is back. And in full swing.She has called J several times, asking if he has come up with what type of visitation he wants. J has told her that he will call her when he wants to meet with her. Tonight, she really tried to make him feel guilty about it! She indicated that she really "needs to get the ball going" because the Drs want to do surgery on BFM and they won't do it unless she is there to take care of him (?? Florence Nightengale complex, anyone!) Anyway, J is staying strong, and told her that is not his concern and something she needs to deal with, without involving him.
Now THAT's where the backbone has been for the past 2 years! Hiding!
*Pft*

What are those bells?

THEY ARE THE BELLS OF FREEDOM!!! Just got word that P. is flying in tomorrow!! that means J Jr. will be GONE TOMORROW!!! My lovely stepmother always used to say to me: "You can do anything as long as you know when it will end"...24 hours and counting!! TICK TOCK TICK TOCK!!

Passive Aggressive Master

So, tonight upon returning to the abode, J Jr notices a shirt O has on. It says "Grandfathers are like Dads, without the Rules". Cute. Fine. J Jr proceeds to ask me if that shirt saying is referring to HIS grandfather( P's father), whom is called Puppa. I said " You mean M?(grandfathers name) for O? you mean YOUR grandfather?" He says, absolutely straight faced and looking slightly confused as to why I would question him. I said "NO, Grandfather as is MY father, Pops. YOU'RE grandfather is of no relation or concern of O's."

Now where is that big ass bottle of red wine Ms. JBM gave me for my birthday?

Now..can someone tell me where I left...

the RAT POISON??? I have been informed by Those who Know These Things that J Jr doesn't want to go to Florida now!!?? He is apprehensive about leaving the only placce he has ever known. Understandable for a normal child. But TOO FUCKING LATE for him. I will strap you to my roof racks with bungi cords and drive you down there myself.

I really just want this day to day drama over.

Living with the Enemy

Ugh. How am I going to get the this time where J Jr is to be under my roof, with no real end in sight? He is trying, draining, and downright annoying. I am not to say anything about his behaviour,not doing homework, no structured routine or bedtime...and I have to do that in the name of self-preservation. I am free to say anything I wish, however I must weigh the pro's and cons. If I say something, I open up my life to anger and hostility. If I don't say anything, it will fester and explode.
No idea where to go with this...Trying to focus on anything and everything else, but it is hard because he is so in your face all the time.

Can you hear that? It is the fat lady, singing

Don't have much energy left..has been completely sapped in all that has transpired in the past 48 hours.

Had the G.A.L. home inspection today, went well. J had a talk with the kids after and told them he is letting them go, we have taken this thing as far as we can and they have made it abundantly and painfully clear they want to go. Funny, K didn't seem that happy/relieved/stressed about it. O FUCKING WELL. Careful what you wish for sweetie..you just may get it.

So, now the only thing that remains is calling the lawyer, figuring out when visitation is going to be, and rework the child support.

I can't wait to live my life without this hanging over my every thought again.

Freak show

Well, court sucked. Somehow we became the incompetant, babbling, drooling, root of all evil bad guys. Quite literally. I am a "monster", I am "mean" because I make a then 13 year old clean out the litter box 1 time a week. Hitler & Mussolini WHO? They have nothing on me. The accusations that I heard that came from their mouthes were terrible. I have never been so shaken, unnerved, and rocked to my very soul. I know the step mother is always the easiest target especially when they have been as vocal as I have in the past about the help they need, the routine and discipline they required. And their 2 natural parents are probably the most passive parents I have ever encountered.

I was completely and totally thrown to the wolves on this one. I should have expected it more, I guess. But, then again, I thought I might be dealing with people who have a shred of integrity between them. WRONG AGAIN! Also, interestingly, I found out that I am the cause of all the problems in their life. Not the fact that their mother abandoned them, made promises she couldn't keep, lied to them, no no no. It';s all me. And you know what? I can put my head on my pillow every night and know I did the best I could at the time with what I thought I knew. Did I make all the right choices and do the right things all the time? Hell no. Did I apologize and change my ways? Yep. Is that little fact remembered? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA -no.

We were told by the G.A.L. that she is pretty sure in her mind she is going to allow the move. So, J and I spoke last night, and think we are ready to put a period at the end of this freak show. Enough is enough. The past 2 plus years we have been focused on what is best for J Jr & K, and now it is time to focus on what is best for US. Our marriage has suffered, our egos are shattered, and I fear some of this crap will somehow have a lasting effect on O. I hope not, but time will tell.

Monday Morning Blues

We have the emergency custody hearing at 10 am tomorrow morning. Oy.
Will certainly let you know how it turns out...

Adrenaline Junkie

Y'know..I think it is safe to say that anyone who knows me in real life would classify me as that. I am the one who is pleading with (most) of her friends to go on the roller coasters, all the scary rides that tip you upside down, spin you around, and spit you out. I am all for that. But I discovered today there is a GOOD adrenaline (see above) and a BAD adrenaline. (Keep reading.)

This morning our attorney filed an emergency custody hearing to have the children placed back with us. All set to go for 2pm. Our attorney is going for it all-have her pay child support, give us full legal custody, everything. Then we weren't going. Then it was back on. Then it was tomorrow. But now it isn't until Monday because THERE ARE NO JUDGES TO HEAR THE CASE.

Correct me if I am wrong, but HELLO?? This is an EMERGENCY. Don't you think there should be a judge "on call" specifically for this type of thing???

O.M.G.

Well, J called the attorney today and he strongly advised him to not say a word to P or either of the kids. Tomorrow there may be an emergency custody hearing returning the kids to us in lieu of her absence.

I wonder what her motives are? (as I wonder about everything she does/says anyway) WHY, in the midst of a massive and ugly custody battle would you EVER leave the state? Without notifying anyone?? She just opened the door for J in a big way. I mean for Christ's sake, the G.A.L. is meeting with the kids THIS WEEK, and we have our home inspection next week. WHY on earth would you just up and leave without saying anything? And to be gone "a few weeks????" Surely, that isn't going to improve her position with the courts.

Even if you aren't a religious, say a prayer for all of us.

PS- tomorrow is P's birthday..wouldn't that be a fab birthday gift for her? Getting your kids taken away due to you arrogance/ignorance/recklessness?

Just a quickie...

Latest developements:

1 1/2 weeks ago, P left to go be with her husband, BFM, as he injured his back in FL. We were informed of this by the kids, NOT P.

P called J yesterday and let him know she will be gone "a few weeks maybe"..A FEW WEEKS??? This entire time, the kids have been with their grandparents, and have been quite vocal that they despise living there. So...today J is going to call his attorney to see what can be done, and get the kids under our roof until P returns. Should be interesting since K will not want to be here, and we will probably have to drag her kicking and screaming, y'know, because we are the epitomy of bad people.

Christ, life needs to provide some frickin' seatbelts.