The G.A.L. wants to conduct a home inspection, with children present, next week! Needs to be on Monday or Tuesday, since we are leaving for Maine on Wednesday.
Let the cleaning frenzy begin!!! (note: not that my house is filthy, just a tad cluttered and needs to be spruced up a bit. NOT. PANICKING.)
Thursday, April 24, 2008
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
GRRRR~~
So J tells me he got a call from J Jr's psych consultant..she started ripping him because J Jr told her he didn't give him his medication this weekend!! So, she naturally called to question him about it, and J insisted he did, and I was his witness to EVERY medication dose.
J picked up J Jr last night and questioned him as to WHY he would say such a thing? The answer was "oh, I forgot". ARGH!!!
So, the next time he comes over, for every time he is due to get meds, J Jr is going to initial a chart that indicates and makes him recognize when he took it.
Asshat.
J picked up J Jr last night and questioned him as to WHY he would say such a thing? The answer was "oh, I forgot". ARGH!!!
So, the next time he comes over, for every time he is due to get meds, J Jr is going to initial a chart that indicates and makes him recognize when he took it.
Asshat.
Sunday, April 20, 2008
And.....EXHALE...
Made it thru a fairly peaceful weekend with J Jr. The new medication he is on seems to really be helping him (altho, if you ask him, it isn't doing anything). His volume control seems to be in check, and he is still J Jr, just down a few notches.
Now I am going to do some much needed spring cleaning to work off all the jitters I had while he was here, just waiting for some confrontration/outburst/nastiness...
Now I am going to do some much needed spring cleaning to work off all the jitters I had while he was here, just waiting for some confrontration/outburst/nastiness...
Friday, April 18, 2008
Mr. Mailman
Isn't that the song? "O Mr. Mailman, won't you please blah blah blah?" Anyway, I have come to the realization that P has a unique hobby. It is sending certified mail. Maybe she is having a lurid affair with the postman, and has a fetish with stamps.
Without fail, almost every week since P was ordered back to MA, she has sent J a certified letter. Granted, they are all receipts for prescriptions, copays and the such. Very valid reasons. But it completely cracks me up that it must be certified, return receipt, need your thumb print to verify who you are to sign for this important correspondence. The one from today? He owes $42.50. It cost $5.38 to send. Ever heard of a scanner? OH THAT's RIGHT!! You don't HAVE your own computer because it is down in FLORIDA! Der, S. Der.
Anyway, that is today's little venitilicious observations.
Oh, on a side note? This is supposed to be our weekend with J Jr (since K won't come over because she is just SO MAD at J, but, of course, will never discuss it with him& even after he tries to initiate a conversation about the situation) and I am waiting with baited breath to see if he CHOOSES to come over since he hasn't come here since J &P brought him to a psychiatrist...and he won't come over because J won't let him play video games. I've been getting used to the quiet, not walking on egg shells, and actually spending the weekends at home doing things, not looking for any excuse to get out.
Without fail, almost every week since P was ordered back to MA, she has sent J a certified letter. Granted, they are all receipts for prescriptions, copays and the such. Very valid reasons. But it completely cracks me up that it must be certified, return receipt, need your thumb print to verify who you are to sign for this important correspondence. The one from today? He owes $42.50. It cost $5.38 to send. Ever heard of a scanner? OH THAT's RIGHT!! You don't HAVE your own computer because it is down in FLORIDA! Der, S. Der.
Anyway, that is today's little venitilicious observations.
Oh, on a side note? This is supposed to be our weekend with J Jr (since K won't come over because she is just SO MAD at J, but, of course, will never discuss it with him& even after he tries to initiate a conversation about the situation) and I am waiting with baited breath to see if he CHOOSES to come over since he hasn't come here since J &P brought him to a psychiatrist...and he won't come over because J won't let him play video games. I've been getting used to the quiet, not walking on egg shells, and actually spending the weekends at home doing things, not looking for any excuse to get out.
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Birthday blow out
So tomorrow is J's birthday. He wanted so desperately for K & J Jr to come to a dinner and cake celelbration tonight. K never bothered to return any of his calls or emails to tell him she couldn't come. J Jr initially said yes, then today he TEXTED him he wasn't feeling well. This kid hasn't been sick in YEARS. I am so hurt and pissed. And I know EXACTLY why- tomorrow is P's day with the G.A.L. and I am sure she pulled the "I am so nervous and I just want to be with you.." bull shit. How do I know? That is just the way she is.
Fucking cow.
Whatever the outcome of this is, I feel good knowing that those ingrates, ahem, I mean Children, were invited to every single function in our lives, and they declined for whatever their reasons are. I hope they remember that. That is all I have to hang on to. I know they are just kids, but JEEZ. They won't cut J a break at any turn, and everything in the world is HIS fault. And I am very aware alot of their reaction is that abandoned child syndrome that they know J won't go anywhere, he is solid, etc. but because P left, they cannot upset her, or she will leave.
I think that may be the best option.
Anyone know anyone with some mafia connections?
Fucking cow.
Whatever the outcome of this is, I feel good knowing that those ingrates, ahem, I mean Children, were invited to every single function in our lives, and they declined for whatever their reasons are. I hope they remember that. That is all I have to hang on to. I know they are just kids, but JEEZ. They won't cut J a break at any turn, and everything in the world is HIS fault. And I am very aware alot of their reaction is that abandoned child syndrome that they know J won't go anywhere, he is solid, etc. but because P left, they cannot upset her, or she will leave.
I think that may be the best option.
Anyone know anyone with some mafia connections?
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
The fat lady has sung...
On Tuesday morning I was FINALLY able to meet with the court appointed G.A.L. As stressful as it was , it was an even bigger relief. I was able to tell my story from the beginning, right up until the present. To be able to speak freely, give my perceptions, insights, and take on events was a true gift. Granted, I do that to all of you, my friends and family, but to someone who can actually impact and effect this entire situation?
Who needs a wrapped birthday gift when I got what I've really wanted for so long?
:-)
Who needs a wrapped birthday gift when I got what I've really wanted for so long?
:-)
Friday, April 4, 2008
In today's episode...
We need to flash back to Monday. J and P had a very frank meeting with J Jr's team of teachers. In a nutshell, due to his deep emotional disturbance, they fear for the safety of the other students and themselves. You see, this has been precipitous. Over the years, his behavioral outbursts has increased, his acting out has increased. He has many different diagnosis'. ADHD, O.D.D., mild Turret's, and it was confirmed some type of mood disorder, but no professional will put a label on it because of his age. I think it is bipolar. Another contributing factor to this fiasco is he had a very young exposure to video games (and we aren't talking Pac Man) and has always walked a very fine line between reality and video games. I always thought that was a load of rubbish psychologists came up with. Until I saw it with my own eyes.
The week prior to the meeting, J Jr had not liked what another student had said to him. So, in the middle of passing in the halls, J Jr SCREAMS " I'll kill you someday!". To the student. In full hallways. He was immediately suspended.
At this meeting, P remained silent. J did all the talking, coming up with courses of actions, listening to the teachers, filling them in on the behavior we have observed in our home. P has been telling the school for months that she was getting J Jr help, and (SURPRISE!) never followed thru because she was LYING. The school were at their wits end with her. According to J, that was quite apparent at the meeting. The next day, Tuesday, J Jr had a scheduled appointment at our local psych center for a Psychiatric Eval. J and I had gone over a list of all of his worrisome behavior and ended up having 2 pages full of things. P? She was silent. Until it came to J mentioning that J Jr has some form of eating disorder. That is when she piped up saying when he is with HER, he eats all good foods. You know what? Not buying that anymore, shithead. A child does not DOUBLE his weight in 1 years times by eating roasted chicken and salads. Whenever he was here, he would only eat cheeseburger subs, hotdogs or pancakes. When we went to my parents house for any holiday occasion? He ate biscuits. That's it. No ham, no turkey, no mashed potatoes, no veggies..just biscuits. But NOOOOOO, no problem there, right? Ugh. Whatever.
So, Tuesday night comes along. J Jr called J as he was on his way to pick him up. J Jr starts lambasting J because "Mom told him he was going to take away his video games" (something that was said between the parents and the Dr at the psych center). So, J says "fine, if you are going to continue to act like this, I don't want you over." End of story. Until.....
Today. This is our weekend. J Jr informed J that he has no intention of coming over since the only reason he ever did was because he could have access to some video games. I know this crushes J. I know that, and feel so badly.
Me?? I am thrilled. I can't stand the sound of the little fuckers voice.
It totally sucks that J is stepping up, trying to do what is right by his kids, whether they agree with him or not. What makes this beyond tragic is that P TELLS the children EVERYTHING that is said, and uses it against John. Makes me ill thinking what she is doing to them. What little chance they may have had in life is being evaporated so quickly under her "care".
The week prior to the meeting, J Jr had not liked what another student had said to him. So, in the middle of passing in the halls, J Jr SCREAMS " I'll kill you someday!". To the student. In full hallways. He was immediately suspended.
At this meeting, P remained silent. J did all the talking, coming up with courses of actions, listening to the teachers, filling them in on the behavior we have observed in our home. P has been telling the school for months that she was getting J Jr help, and (SURPRISE!) never followed thru because she was LYING. The school were at their wits end with her. According to J, that was quite apparent at the meeting. The next day, Tuesday, J Jr had a scheduled appointment at our local psych center for a Psychiatric Eval. J and I had gone over a list of all of his worrisome behavior and ended up having 2 pages full of things. P? She was silent. Until it came to J mentioning that J Jr has some form of eating disorder. That is when she piped up saying when he is with HER, he eats all good foods. You know what? Not buying that anymore, shithead. A child does not DOUBLE his weight in 1 years times by eating roasted chicken and salads. Whenever he was here, he would only eat cheeseburger subs, hotdogs or pancakes. When we went to my parents house for any holiday occasion? He ate biscuits. That's it. No ham, no turkey, no mashed potatoes, no veggies..just biscuits. But NOOOOOO, no problem there, right? Ugh. Whatever.
So, Tuesday night comes along. J Jr called J as he was on his way to pick him up. J Jr starts lambasting J because "Mom told him he was going to take away his video games" (something that was said between the parents and the Dr at the psych center). So, J says "fine, if you are going to continue to act like this, I don't want you over." End of story. Until.....
Today. This is our weekend. J Jr informed J that he has no intention of coming over since the only reason he ever did was because he could have access to some video games. I know this crushes J. I know that, and feel so badly.
Me?? I am thrilled. I can't stand the sound of the little fuckers voice.
It totally sucks that J is stepping up, trying to do what is right by his kids, whether they agree with him or not. What makes this beyond tragic is that P TELLS the children EVERYTHING that is said, and uses it against John. Makes me ill thinking what she is doing to them. What little chance they may have had in life is being evaporated so quickly under her "care".
Introduction
This is a safe haven. This blog was created to allow a safe place to let those-who-need-to-know view what the hell is going on in this crazy life I am drifting thru.
My husband, J, was previously married to P. They have 2 children together, K (15 years old) and J Jr (12 years old). We are in the midst of a very nasty custody dispute. P has been a force to be reckoned with in the past 3 years, and has made our previously peaceful life into pure chaos. May she rot in hell loudly. And painfully.
She was an absent mother who abandoned her children in 2001 to "be young again" because they had the children so young. So, she went out, cavorted about with a married man who was a DJ at the local drinking hole. Then, she dropped him to hook up with BFM. Within a week, she moved in with him. They soon married (without our knowledge, or including the kids).
Time passes, she is still for the most part absent. It is quite literally like pulling teeth to get her to see the kids on any type of regular schedule. If J asked her to watch them for a specific, important reason, she would readily agree. It was anyone's guess if she would actually ever follow thru. She wouldn't show up, be incredibly late, and rarely, she would make it on time.
In 2005 is when all the crap started flying. J's mother died unexpectedly. Then, within a month, his grandfather passed. In that very short period of 30 days, she filed for full custody. And thus begins the saga. She was denied thru the court system twice as she was too "unstable" (court's word, not mine). We came up with a new way to live, that included her. BIG MISTAKE. She slowly, and connivingly, started brain washing the kids against us. This is not my paranormal fantasy, this is the truth. Despite the court saying no twice, she persisted. Then the kids really got into the battle. They started with "I want to live with Mommy" shit. It made our lives horrible and chaotic. Finally, in 2006, J. agreed for the sake of our marriage and lives, to let them go with her, even against the courts decision.
Since 2006, the kids have taken a nosedive. They are both failing school, personal hygiene is not a priority, P lets K's boyfriend from California stay with them (THEY ARE 15!!!), etc. etc...
Then, this year, J was informed P wants to move the kids to FLorida. She did so without permission from J or the courts. She is in Deep shit, so to speak. We are now in the process of seeing a guardian ad liteum, and praying for the best. Whatever the best may be. OUr options are this:
1. P gets to move the kids to Florida.
2. P gets to retain custody, but must stay in MA.
3. P loses custody, and the kids live with us.
I have no idea what the best outcome will be. The fact is there are so many problems that exist between me and J Jr, J and K...it will be an incredible shock to our lives, whatever the outcome may be.
SO, here is where the story will play out.
God help us all.
My husband, J, was previously married to P. They have 2 children together, K (15 years old) and J Jr (12 years old). We are in the midst of a very nasty custody dispute. P has been a force to be reckoned with in the past 3 years, and has made our previously peaceful life into pure chaos. May she rot in hell loudly. And painfully.
She was an absent mother who abandoned her children in 2001 to "be young again" because they had the children so young. So, she went out, cavorted about with a married man who was a DJ at the local drinking hole. Then, she dropped him to hook up with BFM. Within a week, she moved in with him. They soon married (without our knowledge, or including the kids).
Time passes, she is still for the most part absent. It is quite literally like pulling teeth to get her to see the kids on any type of regular schedule. If J asked her to watch them for a specific, important reason, she would readily agree. It was anyone's guess if she would actually ever follow thru. She wouldn't show up, be incredibly late, and rarely, she would make it on time.
In 2005 is when all the crap started flying. J's mother died unexpectedly. Then, within a month, his grandfather passed. In that very short period of 30 days, she filed for full custody. And thus begins the saga. She was denied thru the court system twice as she was too "unstable" (court's word, not mine). We came up with a new way to live, that included her. BIG MISTAKE. She slowly, and connivingly, started brain washing the kids against us. This is not my paranormal fantasy, this is the truth. Despite the court saying no twice, she persisted. Then the kids really got into the battle. They started with "I want to live with Mommy" shit. It made our lives horrible and chaotic. Finally, in 2006, J. agreed for the sake of our marriage and lives, to let them go with her, even against the courts decision.
Since 2006, the kids have taken a nosedive. They are both failing school, personal hygiene is not a priority, P lets K's boyfriend from California stay with them (THEY ARE 15!!!), etc. etc...
Then, this year, J was informed P wants to move the kids to FLorida. She did so without permission from J or the courts. She is in Deep shit, so to speak. We are now in the process of seeing a guardian ad liteum, and praying for the best. Whatever the best may be. OUr options are this:
1. P gets to move the kids to Florida.
2. P gets to retain custody, but must stay in MA.
3. P loses custody, and the kids live with us.
I have no idea what the best outcome will be. The fact is there are so many problems that exist between me and J Jr, J and K...it will be an incredible shock to our lives, whatever the outcome may be.
SO, here is where the story will play out.
God help us all.
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