Introduction

This is a safe haven. This blog was created to allow a safe place to let those-who-need-to-know view what the hell is going on in this crazy life I am drifting thru.

My husband, J, was previously married to P. They have 2 children together, K (15 years old) and J Jr (12 years old). We are in the midst of a very nasty custody dispute. P has been a force to be reckoned with in the past 3 years, and has made our previously peaceful life into pure chaos. May she rot in hell loudly. And painfully.

She was an absent mother who abandoned her children in 2001 to "be young again" because they had the children so young. So, she went out, cavorted about with a married man who was a DJ at the local drinking hole. Then, she dropped him to hook up with BFM. Within a week, she moved in with him. They soon married (without our knowledge, or including the kids).

Time passes, she is still for the most part absent. It is quite literally like pulling teeth to get her to see the kids on any type of regular schedule. If J asked her to watch them for a specific, important reason, she would readily agree. It was anyone's guess if she would actually ever follow thru. She wouldn't show up, be incredibly late, and rarely, she would make it on time.

In 2005 is when all the crap started flying. J's mother died unexpectedly. Then, within a month, his grandfather passed. In that very short period of 30 days, she filed for full custody. And thus begins the saga. She was denied thru the court system twice as she was too "unstable" (court's word, not mine). We came up with a new way to live, that included her. BIG MISTAKE. She slowly, and connivingly, started brain washing the kids against us. This is not my paranormal fantasy, this is the truth. Despite the court saying no twice, she persisted. Then the kids really got into the battle. They started with "I want to live with Mommy" shit. It made our lives horrible and chaotic. Finally, in 2006, J. agreed for the sake of our marriage and lives, to let them go with her, even against the courts decision.

Since 2006, the kids have taken a nosedive. They are both failing school, personal hygiene is not a priority, P lets K's boyfriend from California stay with them (THEY ARE 15!!!), etc. etc...

Then, this year, J was informed P wants to move the kids to FLorida. She did so without permission from J or the courts. She is in Deep shit, so to speak. We are now in the process of seeing a guardian ad liteum, and praying for the best. Whatever the best may be. OUr options are this:

1. P gets to move the kids to Florida.
2. P gets to retain custody, but must stay in MA.
3. P loses custody, and the kids live with us.

I have no idea what the best outcome will be. The fact is there are so many problems that exist between me and J Jr, J and K...it will be an incredible shock to our lives, whatever the outcome may be.
SO, here is where the story will play out.

God help us all.